FALLING IN LOVE
The thing we describe as “falling in love” is actually nothing more than ego-based desires and needs intensifying most of the time.
You become dependent on someone else, or rather their image reflecting on yourself. This has nothing to do with true love that is completely purified of desires.
The one language that traditionally expresses true love in the most honest way is Spanish. In this language, “Te Quiero” means both “I love you” and “I want you.” On the other hand, “Te Amo”, which is another way to say “I love you” without causing ambiguity, is used quite rarely. This may be because true love is as rare as itself.
If you love someone because they make you happy, that love becomes a need. You cannot find true love until you learn to be happy within yourself. As Love is not a relationship with someone. Love is a way of life with everything.
“We are all bound by an invisible field of energy & that connection is called love.” Dr. Joe Dispenza
Be The Servant of Love
The idea of pure love must be worshipped.
What you love is only one of the versions adopted by that idea and the creation is in fact the millions of various versions of that idea. Among these, there is a flower, a moon, another being you love… Your child, mother, and father are each a different version and all of them are waves in the ocean of love. Alas, never be a servant of a lover. Never forget that a lover is just a tiny expression of universal love. Serve the love through your lover, so that you never become attached to one. And when people doesn’t not attached to the beloved, love reaches one of its highest peaks. As soon as a person is attached, he begins to fall down. Being attached is a kind of gravity, not being attached is a kind of grace.
Untrue love is nothing more than a name given to an attachment. True love, on the other hand, stands idle.
Untrue love falls all over and continuously shows interest. True love cares, too, but not in an unduly way. True love cares, too, but not in an unduly way.
In true love, you would not satisfy their ego even though they always demanded it. One who overly cares and attaches feeds the ego of the relevant person. This means that you poison the one you love. If you really care about them, you see that this is not a genuine need but just a whim of ego; you do not try to satisfy it.
Love recognizes affection but not interest. Sometimes it gets tough because sometimes you have to be tough. Sometimes it stays far away; if staying far away serves the purpose, then it will do such. Sometimes it keeps its distance; if keeping distance serves the purpose, then it will do such. Love cares about what is needed but is never fixated on it. It does not satisfy unreal needs; it does not support poisonous figures rearing their ugly heads.
Search for love; it is the biggest experience of life and those who live their lives without gaining experiences through the energy of love can never find out the meaning of life. They stay on the surface of life without digging deep.
If I had to make a choice between the words Love and God, I would choose love. I disregard God because those who know “love” also know God anyway. However, those who rack their brains and philosophize on God may never know love, hence God.
Love, joy, and peace are the deepest versions of existence. Therefore, they have no contrast, no opposite. Because they originate beyond the mind.
Emotions, on the other hand, are subject to the law of contrasts since they are parts of the dualistic mind. This simply means that we cannot have good without getting hold of the bad. The thing that is incorrectly named joy is actually the passing pleasure part of the suffering/pleasure cycle most of the time.
Pleasure is always taken from things out of yourselves while joy arises from within.
What pleasures you today may cause suffering tomorrow or through its absence whenever it leaves. The thing we take for love may pleasure and excite us for some time while this addictive attachment is actually a status of over-neediness that may turn into the opposite in an instant. Thus and so, many “love” relationships shuttle between “love” and “hate” and “attraction” and “attack” when the initial pleasure passes.
True love never afflicts you. It never turns into hate all of a sudden. True joy, likewise, never turns into suffering.
Buddha says that suffering and pain arise from desires and we have to cut desires loose, which means letting go of all desires, in order to be freed of pain. Desires are the endless urges of the material world. Don’t be slave of your desires.
